Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Wearapy

So a few times this week I've had passing thoughts about random things only to be surprised when someone brings it up later. It's quite creepy. The other day I was thinking how I need to go shopping for a particular item when not seconds later Annie texted me saying she needed to do the same thing! It was eerie I tell you. 

It happened again today.
I was on my way home from the gym and was thinking about some of the changes I've made in my life lately. To share a few: I go to the gym 4-5 days a week, I actually try/eat new/healthier foods, I get up early, I'm making great efforts to fill my time with uplifting things, etc etc. But the thing that has struck me the most is my increased effort to look put together. 

Now I've always been a "girly girl" as my family would say, but I am no stranger to the ponytail, t-shirt and vans look. Recently, however, I have made great efforts to do my hair everyday, put a little lipstick on and have a cute outfit. 

Okay so why does this matter? I stumbled on this blog post and it nailed it! Exactly what I was thinking! I've been a little low over the past few months. People have commented that it is a discernible difference from my optimistic self and they've worried. I'll be honest, I've been a little worried. I won't get into the details of it all but it's okay to say that life just sucks sometimes. I have a great roommate who has allowed me to accept that. It sucks, that's just how it is. But you just keep moving forward (as another great friend told me). 

So if working out, eating better, and dressing better makes it suck a little less? I'll take it. I'll curl my hair, do my makeup, put on a skirt and wear some heels because while life may suck sometimes, I don't need to look like it does. 

By drink, I mean Diet Coke- obviously.

Sunday, October 14, 2012

when parents come to town

My parents were here last week and we ran ourselves ragged doing lots of fun thing.


Teresa's Wedding:
My beautiful cousin Teresa came to Virginia to live with us when I was five and she has been a part of our family ever since with countless beach house memories, DC trips and shopping excursions. We adore her and couldn't be happier for her and Mark.



Shopping and Dinner:
Katherine and I trekked up to Salt Lake to do a little shopping and met up with my parents for dinner. We started out at the Joseph Smith Memorial Building and decided that Hires sounded much better than anything they were offering us. So after drinks and an appetizer, we headed to Hires for burgers.



BYU Game:
Annie got us all tickets to the BYU v Utah State game. It was way fun and we were constantly scolding Mom for cheering for the wrong team. I think I'm officially a sports nut. I don't know how to handle it.



Jr Jazz:
Speaking of being a sports nut, Annie is coaching a little 6 yr old basketball team. I may have cried during the game. Don't ask me why, there's no controlling it.
Snow Girls Night Out:
We love our occasional girls nights out and this time was no different. We went to Tai Pan (where I got a great new purse for $12), then to see all the witches and finally to Texas Roadhouse for dinner. I admit my hunger and the fact that we had the most ridiculous wait ever made for a grumpy Sara. We had fun nonetheless.


General Conference:
The best part of the weekend by far was being able to listen to general conference, and even attend two sessions. More tears in this department of course and so grateful for the messages that were shared.



Until next time parents!

Monday, October 8, 2012

lifelong friends

These are my best friends
Totally gorgeous. 

But anyway, I'm laying here late at night thinking about our awesome friendship and I just need to blurt out how much I'm treasuring it right now. 

The past year has been a rough one, for all of us. We've all had our own struggles and concerns but there isn't any doubt that we have each others backs. I have been constantly in awe of how above and beyond these girls have gone for me lately, they have kept me from crumbling under life's blows. We just seem to go through these periods where we really just need each other. 

My senior year in high school was one of those times. Towards the end we all were facing our individual trials, all different but yet- somehow the same. With the summer approaching, a lot of changes were in store. I was headed to BYU days after graduating high school, Marcie was moving to St. George and Lisa was being left at home without her best friends. Life was marching forward and we were freaking out. There was a night where the three of us stood in my room and just cried together (all the while Tanner was sitting in the car haha). It's a night that we will always remember and refer too often when we talk about how incredible our friendship is. 

Now as we're a little bit older, we still cry together. Because when your best friend is hurting, you're hurting too. It's a rare thing when we're all living in the same place at the same time but we've been blessed to be together when we've needed it most. But, it doesn't even matter if we're together because it's just nice to know that your friends are out there whenever you need them.


Monday, October 1, 2012

fake it 'till you make it

I was doing some research for my weekly blog post for my internship last week and stumbled on this article where a mother talked about how she didn't teach her kids to say thank you or other niceties because she wanted her kids to say those things only when they meant them rather than "faking it" or just saying it out of obligation. The author of the article was uncomfortable with this mother's stance. She essentially just said that by teaching her kids to simply say sorry or thank you- even when they may not mean it- they have the skills so that when they really are sorry, they know how to mean it!

So she's saying you gotta faking it till you make it.

It's a principle I live by. Smile even if you aren't happy, pray even if you aren't sure it's doing anything, act like you know what you're doing at work even though you don't, be nice to people even if you aren't really friends with them. I figure that's what faith is, just doing what you're supposed to be doing until it works- because eventually it will work. It's a good confidence booster too. Plus, I'm pretty sure we're all faking it in some way or another.

I've been pretty good at "faking it" my whole life, but there's also something to be said about crying when you're sad and telling people when you need a little love. But you just can't be that way all the time. Because really, if people knew how much whining goes on in my head, or how much crying actually happens- they'd get sick of you and may think you're a little crazy.

Ironically, I'd been thinking about this and my parents sent me a note saying to "fake it till you make it"- how do they know these things?

So when completely confused, fake it till you make it. But if you don't want to fake it, you can come to me and we can cry together.

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